What does a relationship demands?

You may have heard that people who are usually having  their beloved in their life are used to of doing something special for them. Some tell their feelings by saying those 3 magical words, some just express them in words and some just act. In love, no matter who loves more, you should be able to express aptly whatever you feel like. If you are angry, show that anger on the same person, if you are hurt, show them that you are hurt because of them. It is the only way to sort out problems in the relationships.

See, if you can’t share your problems and if you can’t express what exactly you feel are two different situations. The difference is the level of trust in first problem and level of confidence and faith in the second one. When you trust your partner, you will share each and every problem of your life expressively. You will not think twice whether I should tell him/her about the matter or not. That shows how much you have trust on him/her and how well he/she can handle it. The case of failure in expressing your thoughts and feelings is totally different. At times, you want to tell, but don’t know how and when to tell. And, then the problem of misunderstanding arises.

It is a suggestion that you should at least try to express a little by giving the hints or clues. If they are much capable of understanding them, they will surely help you out in the situation. It is as simple as that you are seeing yourself into the mirror and clearing all your marks or spots with its help. You should have faith in your partner that he/she will understand the situation and you of course. A relationship is about trusting, hoping, respecting with all of faith and love.

You should respect the emotions and feelings of your partner and try to understand what they want to say. The best way to pamper them in such situation is simply give them a warm hug. Sometimes, it does wonder. Just get them close to you and make them feel comfortable, so that they can tell and share views and thoughts running in the mind. If the matter is serious, never show anger as it may ruin the situation. Try to cope up and understand your partner. Why did he/she is  saying the words, try to find or calculate the reasons behind it instead. A great relationship does not start with mature minds, there is a need of understanding. Even an immature person can understands well. All you need is to stop judging people and try to love them as they are.

 

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Listen What he/she is saying !

In life , there are several couples who are facing an unhealthy relationship. The reason is that one of them just listen but do not bother what the other partner said. This bring a downfall in a good relationships.

Listening skills are unusual. One grow up communicating very differently from the other one, depending on ample of factors, gender being just one of them.From somewhere each of us have heard these words – ” He plan night outs with his ‘guys’ instead with me.” , “instead to talk with me she spent hours on phone with her ‘girlfriends’.” , ” he don’t come for shopping with me instead spent time in playing video games.” and so on.

It’s very important to understand each other, what your partner trying to say, what he/she actually expect to listen. Both should learn different ways of communicating with each other. It’s not like that your partner isn’t listening to you, it’s simply that you are hardly trying to communicate with each other in ill-assorted manner.

But both of them have different values regarding relationships,as well as enormously special ways of dealing with anxiety and emotional issues. The problems generally arises after a long relationship.Men have a propensity to hold their emotions in, letting them rumble, and then sometimes burst out in pain or anger. Females in comparison to males can more easily, and freely express their emotions, but males find some difficulty to express what exactly they feel.

Conversely, the variations men and women have communicating are often buffed over in the commencement of a relationship, even during the first few months. But over time, they become more and more noticeable.

It would be undignified and ultimately pointless of me to repeat the same thing again and again, so often heard about what each sex values in a relationship, since people’s personal preferences fluctuate far and wide.The key to be in a happy relationship is learning to communicate open and freely with your momentous other in a relationship.

Some helpful tips are :
1. Express – what you feel, just learn to express it.
2. Listen – what he/she says don’t just hear but listen to your partner and give them your response. Instead of debating one needs to learn to respect that basic truth
like :
“Rahul , I am very hurt right now.. whatever you said was so mean.”
instead of above one should say – ” Rahul, I am very hurt right now, your words were so painful for me to hear”

3. Understand that there is no looser in argument, life is not a game and you don’t get a second chance.Arguments feel better when they are a depict and you both come away from it understanding the other’s situation and feelings more fully, with your esteem in one piece.

4.Place yourself in the other person’s shoes and try to see their perception. This is exceptionally difficult for some people to do, because they cannot get away from their own thoughts, even for a second. But by learning to do so, one can get an enhanced sense of where that person is coming from and what may be rousing them to say or experience certain things.

All the above tricks are the magic blocks which create a strong wall of love and security in a relationship.